“There is clearly a domino effect that takes place—one minute of positive feeling leads to another and then another and so on.
“The same domino effect can apply to negative feelings, which is precisely why you never want to dwell on negative feelings. As you think about how bad you feel, and as you focus attention on that feeling, you are in effect asking for more of the same. If you want to feel good you must learn to detect and then follow your good feelings.” Richard Carlson
I have learned that if I stay active, engaged with my day and the people in it, plus my work, I am much, much happier. The sense of ennui that begins my day falls away quickly. If I don’t dwell on that ennui.
My husband says that most people start their day on a low note, having trouble waking up, taking time to get “into” the day. I have been chastising myself for not being a “lark,” and maybe that is just a result of biorhythms over which I have no control. Many of us may be in the same boat.
But I do have control over how the day develops. I can let the feeling ennui “rest lightly on my mind.” I can rise above it. I can spend time with God. Talking to myself when ennui threatens to engulf me is a potent way to assuage the bad feeling. And then, with the first new good feeling, more are prompted, by the law of attraction, to come.
Invite the good times with everything that we have in us. Our lowered affect helps nobody, something that Rhonda Byrne has said in different words. Our joy/happiness, on the other hand, blesses the world, including our little place in it.