What we dwell upon manifests. And if we think lots of negative thoughts about ourselves, we will see ourselves as very weak and ineffectual. On the other hand, if we focus on what we have done right, our legitimate power will overwhelm us, and we will walk a green earth. We will draw our power to ourselves, good power, effective action, harmonious relationships.
We all have a mix of qualities. The problem becomes for us that we don’t think well of ourselves. We blame ourselves for the times in our lives that things have happened that we regret. This lack of self-love then grows and grows, making right action more difficult down the road.
We don’t want to be conceited, of course. But genuine caring about ourselves is the kernel from which right action in the future will spring. Genuine love for ourselves will build into right behaviors and more love, especially for our brothers and sisters who share this planet with us.
To grieve for wrong action is counterproductive. If we need forgiveness, let us seek it, know that it is forthcoming, and then move forward with our lives. To stay stuck in unhappiness only promulgates unhappiness. To stay stuck in happiness is to know that Love will cure whatever ails us.